The Messed Up Counsellor

Episode 8: Care or Control? (Which is it)

We all overstep this process at times in our lives, and do things which we think will be helpful, only to find the person we are helping feels controlled. The only way to understand if you have gone from help to control is to ask the other person how they feel, and if they wanted you to do that for them.
 

Episode 7: Guilt and the dynamics of Shame

We have all experienced feelings of guilt as part of our up bringing. It is usually used to help to manipulate and control us. That is not to say that this is done to us by people who want to hurt us, rather it is an easy process for people to use when they need to look after and manage us.

Episode 6: Insecurity and Bullying. In discussion with another therapist Sue.

You know the feeling of being targeted, bullied, isolated, and put down by someone? Why do people do that to others? Well, what I share may shock you. Using my personal experience and professional awareness, I hope I can give you a different view of this and a new way of reacting to it.

Episode 5: Helping children through divorce and separation

This is becoming more of an issue every year, with some children experiencing multiple separations. In this episode I share some ways to help all parties respect and value each other.

The Messed Up Counsellor Ep 4: What and why?

We can't always avoid the things that bother us. However, we can often deal with why something is bothering us, and this might be a more realistic and practical resolution to the issue at hand.

The Messed Up Counsellor Ep 3: Feelings

What’s this thing called feelings in relationships?
In this podcast I explore communicating feelings. I often see people whose emotional vocabulary is so limited (or non existent) that they struggle to communicate how they feel in a meangingful way. 

The Messed Up Counsellor Ep2: Partners (Can they be everything for me)

In episode 2, I talk about partners. Can emotional and intimate partners be everything that we need them to be? Can we be enough for them too? How do we define a good partner? Is it realistic for one person to tick all our boxes?

The Messed Up Counsellor: Introduction

In this short introduction, I explain what you can expect from my new podcast series: The Messed Up Counsellor.

The Messed Up Counsellor Ep1: Are they really friends?

In the debut episode of my new podcast series, I talk about friendships: Who are really your friends, and who are acquaintances? I share some thoughts about what a friendship looks like, how friends treat each other and how friendships differ from relastionships with colleagues or acquaintances. Is it ok to share different aspects of yourself with different groups?