The Messed Up Counsellor

Episode 15: Grief and loss, change and moving on.

I look at the process of change and loss which is a core issue for most human beings. I explore ways to understand the process and what might be helpful to move through it to get to the other side.

Episode 14: Creating more committed and connected relationships.

In this episode I explore the way relationships breakdown, how to build new ones, and repair old ones. I share my knowledge garnered working with couples to help you move through conflict to harmony; giving you the tools to enable more connected and quality relationships.

Episode 13: Feeling not good enough (Imposter Syndrome)

Many people will recognise the feeling of “not good enough”. In this episode we explore these complex feelings and discuss ways to help control and defeat them.
 

Episode 12: Diversity and difference.

What makes us different? Is it ok to be different? Exploring our differences and celebrating them so that we can be differently abled and not feel inadequate.

Episode 11: Relationships and communication.

Possibly the most important and eventful aspects of our lives: building quality connected relationships. I explore the importance of good quality relationships and how to help restore them when they go wrong or face difficulties.

Episode 10: Insecurity: It’s all about me.

What is insecurity? Where does it come from? Is it normal? How does it affect us?

Episode 9: Why do we do that?

An exploration of my first book: The journey, the mistakes and lessons I  learnt in the process.

Episode 8: Care or Control? (Which is it)

We all overstep this process at times in our lives, and do things which we think will be helpful, only to find the person we are helping feels controlled. The only way to understand if you have gone from help to control is to ask the other person how they feel, and if they wanted you to do that for them.
 

Episode 7: Guilt and the dynamics of Shame

We have all experienced feelings of guilt as part of our up bringing. It is usually used to help to manipulate and control us. That is not to say that this is done to us by people who want to hurt us, rather it is an easy process for people to use when they need to look after and manage us.

Episode 6: Insecurity and Bullying. In discussion with another therapist Sue.

You know the feeling of being targeted, bullied, isolated, and put down by someone? Why do people do that to others? Well, what I share may shock you. Using my personal experience and professional awareness, I hope I can give you a different view of this and a new way of reacting to it.